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Want to Try Your First Threesome as a Couple? 7 Tips to Find the Right Third

Did you know that roughly 4 out of 5 men and 1 in 3 women are open to having a threesome?

If you’re in a couple, you may think that threesomes are best left to fantasy. However, if communication is strong and both partners feel secure, threesomes can deepen your bond even more.

If you want to know how to have the best threesome, here are 7 tips for finding a compatible partner.

1. Discuss All Threesome Rules with Your Current Partner First

Before you even think about finding another partner, you need to lay out ground rules and discuss every concern with your current partner.

The conversation may feel uncomfortable since you’re exploring new territory in your relationship. However, if you can’t talk about threesomes maturely, then you won’t be able to have a positive experience. In order to avoid any awkwardness in the heat of the moment, this step is mandatory.

Ask your partner what they find appealing about a threesome and if they have any concerns. Both partners need to feel safe and that experimenting with threesomes won’t ruin the relationship.

If anyone is uncomfortable with specific sexual acts, then you need to establish appropriate behavior for each party. Who can touch who, who can do what, and how can everyone be involved so no one feels left out?

2. Explore Threesome Websites Together

The beauty of threesome websites is that it gives both partners a chance to dip their toes into the world of threesomes and any other kinds of kinks. Both of you can go into this experience with the intention of experimenting so there’s no pressure to commit to the act.

The two of you can watch porn together and even try dirty talking with other people. If you can’t get in the mood while watching porn together, then chances are you won’t feel comfortable with a real person in the room participating with you.

The best site for first-timers is FriendFinder-X. Here you can chat with people who are a part of every sexual community. You can connect with anyone who shares similar interests and there’s no pressure to meet unless you feel a connection.

3. Find a Threesome by Posting an Ad

If you’re ready to find a partner, a quick way to gather a lot of candidates is to post an online ad. In this post, you can list everything you need in a match to help weed out people who aren’t a good fit.

Posting an ad is also a great way to hammer out the details with your partner on what both parties want and expect from the encounter. You can learn more about posting ads for free on Love Sita.

4. Both Partners Can Make Profiles on Dating Apps

If you’re in the generation of dating apps, then creating dating profiles may be more up your alley. You can stick to more traditional apps like Tinder or Bumble, or you can try downloading apps specific for couples interesting in threesomes like 3Fun or Feeld.

Each app comes with a list of pros and cons, so discuss which option you’re most comfortable doing with your partner.

If you are a couple who wants to find a girl for a threesome, then you may have the best luck if the woman in the relationship pursues potential partners. Women are naturally better at communicating and being sensitive, at least in American society.

If you’re using traditional apps, make sure both partners create a profile. If you find matches that are interested in both people, then you can initiate conversations with those people.

Make sure you use plenty of couple photos and individual photos in your profile. With individual and paired photos, every contender has the chance to see your best features in selfies and they can feel the vibe of how the two of you interact as a couple.

5. Get to Know Potential Partners for at Least a Week

If you’re new to threesomes, then taking things slowly will ensure that nobody’s feelings get hurt. You could have a spur-of-the-moment hookup, but if anything happens that makes someone feel disrespected, then the pain can outweigh the short-lived pleasure.

Once you and your partner agree on a person you think you’re compatible with, it’s important that you get to know them. Both parties can speak with the person through texting or even phone calls. The conversation can be friendly and you don’t have to venture into dirty talk yet.

If you can share a few laughs with this person, then you’re more likely to have sexual chemistry, too. The best sex happens when everyone involved feels comfortable and they enjoy the other person’s company.

If things are going well, then another step you can take is to sit down and have a FaceTime of Skype call where the three of you can meet face-to-face. If the vibe is off, then you still have the option to exit gracefully.

6. Take Them on a Date

People go on dates in monogamous relationships, so the same rules should apply to people who are interested in polyamorous encounters.

Dating potential partners is a great way to see if there’s chemistry between the three of you. All parties should feel cared for and wanted.

If someone is getting left out of the conversation, then it’s clear that you haven’t mastered the art of balancing attention. The way you interact on a date is a good indicator of how you’ll interact together sexually.

7. An Adventurous Couple Looking for a Third May Enjoy Sex Parties

If both partners don’t have jealousy issues and you’re ready to dive into your first threesome, then going to a swingers party could be a thrilling start. Many sex parties have rules to ensure everyone feels safe.

If you go to a party, then you may only want to be spectators first to see how things are done. A good place to find the right party environment for you is to scope out adult websites where parties near you are advertised.

Want More Love and Sex Tips?

Are you and your partner daring enough to try a threesome?

Even if you decide you’re not interested, having discussions about fantasies can help spice things up in the bedroom and improve your trust and communication skills.

If you want to be a relationship expert, Fresh In Love has all the tips you need. For more sex advice, check out our blog.