Have you and your partner been feeling a bit uninspired in the bedroom of late? Feeling a need for more intimate fun, but struggling to get past some of the barriers to intimacy? Have the nights where one or more of you come down with a mysterious headache outnumbered the nights you’ve spent in each other’s arms?
While it’s often said that money can’t buy you love, what money can buy are these thirteen sexy gifts that can help you turn up the heat and relight the flames of your passion.
1. Luxuriant Lingerie
When it comes to sexy gifts, you can’t get more classic than lingerie. This can mean anything from see-through panties and bras to garter belts and hose. Lingerie can be silky, satiny, transparent, translucent, or completely solid. It can involve corsets and other body-shaping garments.
The goal of lingerie is to expose skin without baring yourself completely. To tease and titillate with interesting textures and designs.
And, not for nothing, but lingerie for men has really taken off in recent years. So, keep that in mind if you need sexy gifts for him.
2. Jewelry
From the extremely sexualized choker necklace to piercings in intimate places, there’s no end to the ways you can use jewelry in your bedroom. Everyone remembers that one scene from Titanic as a standout erotic moment of the 1990s, and with good reason.
If you’re wanting to create your own “heart of the ocean” moment as part of your romantic gifts for your partner, check out the designers at DreamlandJewelry.com for inspiration.
3. Whips and Chains Excite Partners
You don’t have to be a fan of Rhianna or Fifty Shades of Grey to recognize that BDSM has risen in prominence and popularity in recent years. If you or your partner have felt like your bedroom antics have gotten stale, sit down with them and take a moment to discuss any kinks or fantasies you may want to enact.
Then, once you know what deep desires your partner wants to enact, buy the items you need to make it happen. There are plenty of beginner bondage kits available, whether they want handcuffs or silken restraints. (And, of course, in a pinch, you can use scarves or ties you purchased for the occasion.)
4. Feel Those Good Vibrations
Sex toys may not be among the most “appropriate” gifts for couples, but they can do wonders in reigniting bedroom sparks. If you’re fond of vibrators, you can find loads of clitoral or vaginal massagers online and in specialty stores. If your male-bodied partner wants to get in on the fun, consider investing in a vibrating butt plug.
You can even find double-sided toys for all kinds of configurations that will let you and your partner both feel those good vibrations.
5. Massage Oil
If you were to think of the phrase “sexy gifts”, we’re sure the thought of a massage would cross your mind before long. The deep skin-to-skin contact, releasing tension in the back, shoulders, and neck? There’s something inherently sexy about giving a massage to your partner.
And you can make the experience even more sensual with specialized massage oil. These oils often have scents designed to heighten arousal and cause warming sensations when rubbed into the skin.
6. Sensual Scents
Speaking of sensual scents, you can’t neglect the role of smell in setting the mood in your bedroom. After all, people have used incense as part of religious and sexual rituals, among many other purposes, for millennia. In fact, many scents can serve as aphrodisiacs.
And, besides, nothing takes you out of the moment like smelling someone’s body odor or unwashed unmentionables. So, even if you don’t light a candle or burn incense, you can wash your body with arousal-heightening scents before you settle in for some loving.
7. Sexy Favors or Coupons
Looking for gift ideas to spice up the bedroom that don’t demand a sense of urgency? Consider making a book of sexy favors or coupons for your partner. You can set this up in a sweet, romantic way like the classic “good for one kiss” coupon. Or, if you want to be more adventurous, promise oral sex, a sensual massage, sex in a new position, or some new toy you want to try with them.
These can let you brainstorm some fun, sexy ideas with your partner without you having to cash in on them right away. Make sure that you communicate fully about how and when these coupons can be cashed in, though, or it could lead to tension between you.
8. Make Yourself the Dessert
Chocolate rests atop most lists for romantic gifts. Food play is a rather common sexual fantasy. Why not combine the two and make yourself the sweet treat they can’t wait to eat?
You don’t necessarily have to slather yourself in chocolate or whipped cream to make this work. There are plenty of edible undergarments, edible body paints, and other such decadent delights available. Whatever you choose, make sure you allow plenty of time for cleanup, as things will get hot and sticky very quickly.
9. Sexify Your Sheets
If you and your partner are feeling blah with your usual bedroom routine, why not sex up your sheets? Texture and sensation are huge parts of any sexual encounter. The feeling of luxurious sheets rumpling beneath your back or your partner’s grasp can heighten the experience like little else.
For this, you want to invest in silk or satin sheets, though ideally something that you can still clean when you’re done. It wouldn’t do to ruin your sheets after one night of fun, after all.
10. Liquid Courage
While many attest that booze can heighten the experience, too much of this gift can wind up being a massive mood killer. However, there is something to be said for the sensual warmth brought by a high-quality whiskey or wine shared between two loving partners.
Alcohol has a way of removing your inhibitions, which can help break down some of the barriers you may have with your usual intimate relationship. However, this is best used as an occasional romantic gift. If you’re both having to get sloshed before you can sleep with each other, there are much deeper problems that need to be addressed.
11. Need a Change? Try Sexy Games
Sex is supposed to be fun, not a chore that you endure. If you’ve been missing that sense of playfulness and spontaneity in the bedroom, consider buying some sexy games. From classics like “kinky truth or date” to matching card games to rolling a sexual d20, there’s no end to the ways you can gamify your sex life. (Sexy Twister is a trope all its own, in fact!)
The element of randomness can help you break up stale, formulaic sex and welcome new experiences. Or, if nothing else, you can get a shared laugh out of your mutual awkwardness with the new positions.
12. Mood-Setting Tunes
Everyone has a different sexual playlist. Some partners go wild for classical music. Others prefer a more ambient experience. Some like the on-the-nose stylings of Marvin Gaye or Wham. Whatever your musical taste, finding music you and your partner can appreciate while going hot and heavy makes for a great sexy gift.
If you don’t have a dedicated album or two of sex music, chat with your partner to figure out what will work best for you. You may be surprised at what can help you find a rhythm with each other.
13. One Night in a Luxury Hotel Suite
So, you really want to have a passionate night with your partner, but you do not want to deal with the cleanup that comes after the fact. You’re tired of having sex in your bed at home and miss the excitement and thrill of sleeping with someone in an unfamiliar environment.
Last on our suggestions for sexy gifts? The gift of a mini-vacation for you and your partner. A one-night stand in the most luxurious hotel suite in your city. You can kick back in a bed with high-quality sheets, have fun with each other, and enjoy a spa-like shower. Even better: You don’t have to worry about cleanup, as the housekeeping staff will take care of that the next day! (Though they might not be too fond of you for it.)
And the best part of all of this? You don’t have the crippling anxiety of waking up alone. Your partner will be right there with you when you wake after a wonderful night together. What’s not to love about that?
Looking for More Sexy Gifts to Spice Up Your Bedroom?
It can be hard to handle when the spark in your sex life grows dim. Thankfully, you’re not without options.
From toys to scents to vacations to clothing, there are many sexy gifts that can turn up the heat in your bedroom. If you need more suggestions than what we provided above, why not check out our blog? We update each day with more romance and lifestyle articles like this one.
